There’s an obsession with the concept of value and status when you’re dealing with men’s dating advice.The idea is that, when you boil everything down, women are attracted to high-value, high-status men; therefore, men who want to be more successful with women should be as high-value as possible.Value is inherent; if you don’t have it, you’re going to give yourself away in hundreds of little tells and no amount of “magic bullets” or verbal trickery is going to make up for that lack.
The problem is that You can baffle people with your bullshit for only so long before they start to notice the cracks in the facade; you may be talking about your model ex-girlfriend but women will start noticing that you can’t look them in the eye for very long, that your body language starts to change as soon as you’re distracted and that you’re more nervous around them then someone of your supposed status would be.
Moreover, women are to guys embellishing themselves in order to look better and are quite good at spotting incongruities.
What about athletes – everybody remembers how popular the jocks were in high-school and college after all? You see, the second mistake is to assume that value and status are universal – that certain things are a hive-mind.
The short answer is that they have value and status… We’re part of diverse and varied communities, and what marks you as high status in one is going to mean jack in another.
U’s or Crazy Stripper Ex – are intended to subtly convey higher status by implying that the PUA has dated high-value women before, usually models or actresses.
These pre-packaged conversations are designed to make the individual using them seem more interesting and higher-status and help them convey sexual interest without seeming too interested; after all, being too invested in getting her home is a sign of low-status and thus unattractive.
A lot of classic PUA techniques are all about faking status and conveying that you’re actually high-value through behavior and appearing to be less-invested in the interaction…
all while desperately wanting to get into her pants.
) to look richer or promote themselves from a grunt in Accounts-Receivable to a major player in Acquisitions.
They’ll puff up their vacations from a weekend in Corpus Christi to a week in South Beach, name drop when they think they can get away with it and basically lie through their teeth in order to appear cooler than they are.
Money by itself clearly didn’t buy love for them; it didn’t even give them that much of an advantage at the negotiating table. Noted Kavorka man and war criminal Henry Kissinger once quipped that “Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac”, and Lord knows that the man got more ass than a drunk at a donkey auction with a stolen credit card despite the fact that he looks like the Goblin King. One doesn’t get to be the secretary of state to two presidents without having an ability to charm others and after all, a man who was able to negotiate détente with Russia isn’t going to be flummoxed by a pretty lady. It certainly Kevin Bacon once mentioned that “any idiot can get laid if they were famous”.